The holiday season can be tough to manage at the best of times – but if you’re also in the midst of making a pregnancy decision, it can feel almost impossible. To make the holidays easier to get through, here are a few pieces of advice from our center.
Know Your Limits
The most important thing to keep in mind when you’re trying to get through the holidays is that you need to be aware of your limits. Don’t be afraid to respectfully decline an invitation if you know you will feel stressed or if you’re worried about probing questions. On the other hand, don’t be afraid to share with friends and family if you feel like their support would help you feel better.
If you haven’t broken the news to your family yet, it can be helpful to have a close friend or family member who knows your situation who you can count on for support. And if your family does know, don’t be afraid to ask for some understanding and help. Pregnancy is difficult even when you were planning for it, so don’t feel like you need to go through it alone. For additional support in your pregnancy decision, know you can always call Embrace.
Don’t Feel Pressured
At the same time, don’t feel pressured to share or explain anything you’re not comfortable with. Your pregnancy story, and your choices for how you will handle it, are yours alone. Don’t feel bad for avoiding uncomfortable questions or situations. At times like these, you need to prioritize your own emotions and mental health above the feelings of your friends and family.
Practice What to Say
When you’re pregnant, questions are unavoidable. People may ask why you’re not eating or drinking certain foods. If you’re further along, they might ask about the baby’s father or if you’re planning to get married. They might ask what options you’re considering or even try to change your mind. In these cases, it’s good to have some answers prepared so you can give them easily and avoid unnecessary discomfort. A good tip is to think of the questions you least want to be asked and how you would answer them gracefully.
Give Yourself Time
The holidays can be a whirl of activity and responsibilities, but when you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy you need to take time for yourself as well. Make sure you leave open time to relax, cope, and consider your thoughts and feelings. Don’t feel like you need to attend every event or host any yourself if you aren’t up to it. It’s perfectly natural, and even advisable, to take things slow and easy.
Get Answers and Help
It’s normal to have questions or need additional help when you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. If you aren’t sure who to ask, call Embrace today at (316) 945-9400. We offer confidential support, guidance, and information to pregnant women for absolutely no cost. Call us now to schedule an appointment or learn more about how we can help you.