What Are My Options in an Unplanned Pregnancy?

While pregnancy is often a cause for celebration, sometimes it’s a cause for alarm. If you get pregnant unexpectedly, you are probably thinking, “What do I do now?” Millions of women in the United States find themselves in the same position and asking the same question every year.

However, there are no easy answers and each option comes with its own sacrifices. At Embrace, we help women understand these choices and their consequences. If you need a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental resource to help you with your pregnancy decision, call Embrace now at (316) 945-9400.

Your Pregnancy Options

When you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have three options to consider: parenting, adoption, and abortion.


Most people who become pregnant end up choosing to carry and parent the baby. Parenthood can be a rewarding experience, and it can provide a sense of direction to your life. Parenting a child isn’t easy, even when you’re ready to start a family, but you can find help and resources at Embrace in Wichita. From education to material support, we are here to help you thrive in this new role as a mother or father.


If you’re not prepared to raise a child yet, you can choose to parent through adoption. Before you dismiss this option, know that a lot has changed in the last 50 years regarding a woman’s say in the process. Choosing the best possible home for your child is one of the most selfless decisions you could ever make. In addition, many adoption agencies and adoptive parents will fully cover your medical expenses during pregnancy, and they may even provide help with your living expenses.

Here in Kansas, adoption law allows you to choose between an open or a closed adoption. Open adoptions allow you and the adoptive family to stay in contact after the adoption. Closed adoptions, on the other hand, don’t allow contact after the adoption is finalized. In some closed adoptions the adoptive family never meets the birth mother at all. These choices are all up to you, and Embrace can help you find a licensed and qualified adoption agency where you can learn more.


Finally, you can choose to terminate your pregnancy by abortion. In Kansas, abortions are legal until 22 weeks gestation – that is, until the baby is able to survive outside the womb without extraordinary medical means. To obtain an abortion, you will need to undergo state-directed counseling, receive an ultrasound, and (if you are under 18) notify at least one of your parents about the procedure. The cost can vary from $600-$800 depending on several factors, but if you’re in Wichita, you can schedule the ultrasound free of charge at Embrace.

You should also know that abortion can have rare but serious side effects. In some cases, women can get life-threatening infections from surgical abortion tools or have adverse reactions to abortion medications. It’s also normal to have emotional side effects after an abortion including stress, depression, and feelings of grief.

Get Help With Your Choice

If you aren’t sure which choice is right for you or if you want someone to talk to about your options, call Embrace today. We’re happy to help you with your decision in any way we can. Our trained client advocates will discuss all your options in a comfortable and confidential environment. Embrace can provide education, connections to area resources and an initial sonogram to help you find out how far along you are.

To schedule your appointment at Embrace, call (316) 945-9400 or text (316) 530-1009.

Sharon Lessig

Sharon Lessig


The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by Sharon Lessig our advanced practice registered nurse.