20 Questions To Ask Before It Gets Serious

By February 13, 2018Relationships

When it comes to relationships, how do you know when to call it quits? Sure, you can ask your mom or that friend who’s always a little too eager to share their opinion 🙂 But in the end, you are the one who knows what you’re willing to put up with & what’s on your list of ‘deal breakers’. So if you haven’t already, these questions can help you start thinking through what you want from a relationship & maybe point out some red flags you haven’t seen before. 

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  1. Are their values compatible with yours?
  2. Are their words consistent with their actions?
  3. Do they appear to express feelings openly?
  4. Do you feel valued in the relationship?
  5. Do they act controlling and possessive?
  6. Are they extremely jealous?
  7. Do they tell you how to dress, criticize your appearance and/or your behavior?
  8. Do they want to spend every free moment with you? Do they have other interests and friends?
  9. How do they act with younger children? With pets?
  10. How do they handle anger?
  11. Do they get along with your family?
  12. Have they been in a relationship before? If yes, what happened?
  13. Do they abuse alcohol or drugs?
  14. Do they have a history of being in trouble with the law?
  15. Do they desire a sexual relationship which is compatible with yours?
  16. Do they work through conflict effectively?
  17. Do they want you to make all the decisions?
  18. Do you care as much about them as they do about you?
  19. What are their parents like? Are they separated, divorced, or still together? Why did they break up?
  20. How do their parents handle disagreements?

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Talk It Out

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