When You Don’t Feel “Mom-Ready”

By June 11, 2019Parenting, Pregnancy

By Kim Scott

Many of the women with unplanned pregnancies who come to Embrace say the same thing: “I don’t know if I’m ready to be a parent.” When you’re faced with the idea of bringing a child into the world it can seem like an impossible task that you might feel unprepared for. However, it’s important to remember that the baby doesn’t come overnight! There’s a reason there are nine months to prepare. And though no one ever feels 100% ready for this life change, keep reading for some of our insights on how to prepare and how Embrace can help.

Your Child Doesn’t Need You To Be Perfect

No one is ever fully ready for the birth of their first child, period. While preparing for what to expect is good, you can’t predict how your child will interact with you, how they will want to be comforted, etc. Parenting guides and books can give you a general framework, but your baby will be a unique being that you’ll have to adjust to. At the end of the day, your child doesn’t need a perfect mother (who don’t exist, by the way); they need a loving one. It’s okay and perfectly natural to feel like you don’t have everything figured out; no one does! But if you can love your child and care for them, you will figure the rest out in time.

Change Brings Opportunity

You may not know all the ins and out of diaper changes, bottle feeding, or sleep training now, but you will grow and learn in time. For perspective, think back to other challenges you’ve faced in life that you’ve had to overcome. Only when you rise up to the opportunity at hand will you discover the benefits and a new level of strength you didn’t know you had. Challenges often bring out the best in us and change isn’t always a bad thing.

“The greatest things in life all require commitment, sacrifice, some struggle, and hardship. It’s not easy. But absolutely worth it.”

– Robin S. Sharma

At Embrace, we offer free parenting and relationship classes where we cover topics such as preparing for childbirth, how to handle conflict, communication in a relationship in a healthy way, how to identify your parenting style, and more. In addition, by completing qualifying classes you receive incentives such as newborn baby supplies or monthly supplemental supplies to support you as you navigate your first year of parenting. You can find more information on our classes and incentives here.

You Have More Support Than You Know

Social media displays everyone’s highlight reels but don’t be fooled by the woman who seems to be doing it all. Behind every great mom is a basket of dirty laundry and a big support system. It takes a village to raise a child so don’t be afraid to ask for help! For starters, try talking to other mothers in your life that you look up to whether it be your parents, other family members, or friends. Ask them how they prepared for the birth of their child, what they found to be helpful, and if they have any advice for you. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask for help when the time comes. They likely had the same questions that you have and may be able to provide some insight.

You may also want to consider joining a support group of other expectant moms. Being able to connect with other women that are in similar situations can relieve some of the stress and replace it with a sense of community. In addition, you can share what you’ve learned and may be able to provide other expectant mothers in the group with answers to their own questions or concerns.

Embrace Can Help

Still not feeling “mom ready”? That’s okay. Becoming a parent is a milestone in everyone’s life, but it doesn’t have to cause you stress. You need support now more than ever and that’s what Embrace is dedicated to. We provide free pregnancy testing and services, limited obstetrical ultrasounds, parenting education and resources, and material support. You’re not alone in this journey; we’re here to walk with you every step of the way. Call Embrace today at 316-945-9400 or text at 316-530-1009 to learn more about our free & confidential services.